Thank you

Today I sat through the first day of the Marriage Preparation Course which is mandatory to be married in the Roman Catholic Church of India - In it, the things I learned today among others was the anatomy and physiology of male/female, the updated version of the Rhythm Method and esteem issues. Considering the juggler and I are 'Evolved' human beings - the course covered ground we already knew or had passed in the beginning of our relationship - making it truly a trying experience for the 2 of us and that was just the first day!

Since the juggler also made a 'mistake' in his 'youth' , we have also done a circle of marriage tribunal law, submitting documents from birth certicates to affidavits regarding practice of catholicism and children we might have and sending 4 witnesses to talk about the mistake, all so we can get married in the church.

I'm still not sure if this process is going to be worth it, but I promised myself I would do everything from my end to ensure it happens, the rest I leave in the hands of God and apparently, his chosen ones!

Through all this, I would like to say an immense 'Thank you' to the juggler for his stoicism in the face of what must be complete insanity to someone who has not been brought up in a demanding religion! To me, its just something you take for granted, that you need to earn your right to things but not-so for others. I appreciate the complete and utter committment he has made evident in this crazy rigmarole and love him much for it even if the 3 things he loves most about me are actually about him!

10 jobs I think I'd like....

Please note I'm not saying careers coz over time I have realised, to me the job is a job!

1. Tour Guide
2. Features writer/journalist
3. Fashion/beauty editor
4. Mattress trial person (I'm assuming it involves a lot of sleeping)
5. TV show rater
6. Facebook stalker (I never said the job existed!)
7. Food taster
8. Social media user
9. Back up Dancer (I'm not sure exactly how stressful this is but in the last row, can't be so bad!) *
10. Librarian

Someone else also has a list of slacker careers!
* Pixy tells me this is 8 hours of very hard work on a slow day even in the last row (ref comments below) so no-can-do!
Thank you Pix!

If you divorce and remarry you can't take communion. But if you molest children you can celebrate mass.

aslo linked: The Great Catholic Cover-Up [Both discovered through @soniafaleiro on twitter.]

The title really strikes a chord with me since as some of you know I am running around trying to get a dispensation from the Pope to get married in Church. It amazes me where the church turns a blind eye to child molestation but instead puts in place laws and tenets regarding marriage and divorce! Would you not think that ruining a child's innocence is a far greater crime than making a mistake as an adult?

 

Multitalent amazes me!

I've been reading 'The Big Blind' by Louise Wener - the author note says she used to be the lead singer of Brit pop band 'Sleeper' with 3 Top 10 albums and 8 Top 40 singles! I find this kind of talent across spheres fascinating - It truly commands respect!

Other people with Multitalent:

• Leonardo Da Vinci - Artist, Architecht, Inventor/Scientist,Writer, General Genius
• Shari Shattuck - Actress, Author
• Boman Irani - Photographer,Actor
• Anuj Saxena - Actor, Businessman

I find Maria Shriver also a fount of talent - Journalist, Author (not such a jump I know) but it takes skill to be a member of the Kennedy family and married to Arnold Schwarzenegger!

Actor/Musician has a lot of people in the category - practically everyone seems to do that cross over. Ronn Moss, Keanu Reeves, Jared Leto, Hilary Duff, Lindsay Lohan, Leighton Meester, Taylor Momsen....

I have not included peopel who have multi talents in their spheres to much - I'm always impressed by songwriter/singers or singer/composers but I think AR Rahman deserves a special mention because he is a veritable powerhouse of Talent in the field of music!

Happy Video of the day...year...lifetime!

So One has been been getting on the bus to depressedville quite often this month, not really making it there...
however this also helps to make me giggle and remember my life is not so bad....I could have been an adolescent/twenty something in the 80's and then my life would really be a disaster!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySsbw7SSWt8

Red Carpet thoughts!

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  Sandra Bullock's lipstick scares me!
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  Charlize Theron thought we would not be able to find her boobs so she wore directions
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  J.Lo wore an icecream!
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  What is it with dead birds at the end of minidresses - Demi Moore, Vera Farmiga, Elizabeth Banks(who is she?),
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  Zoe Saldanha looks like an alien that should be on Na'avi is on the end of her dress instead!
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  Love Love Love Rachel McAdam's dress!
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  Miley Cyrus bottom half is so pretty - so sad she forgot to wear the top of it!
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  Yum Yum Yum!Taylor Lautner - I'm a cougar!
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  Cameron Diaz looked gorgeous - can I have that dress for my wedding?
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  SJP's dress needs an explanation - mathematical, astrophysics, anything?
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  Sigourney Weaver wore a bow???? did she think she had to bring a gift?
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  From twitter, for the first time, Best Director may be prettier than Best Actress (will credit when find the tweet again!)
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  ummm.... James Cameron left Katherine Bigelow for that?
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  Helen Mirren has to be the most graceful person I have ever seen
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  Anna Kendrick's dress was also really pretty - 2nd wedding?

Other random opinions from Twitter:@blaftness: Invade nation. Bomb to hell for 7 yrs. Kill lakhs. Make complex sensitive movie about the experience. Celebrate with moving awards show.

It's complicated!

used to be a Facebook option for a relationship status but I think everyone can choose this - whether you are married, engaged, dating or even single! 

Watching the movie of the same name, it makes you wonder what makes relationships work. In the case of Jane and Jake Adler, it had past it's sell by date - having screwed it up once, they were simply in different places and stages in their lives to make it work again - this in spite of being very well matched!

I have had timing issues with someone who most people would think would be be a perfect match but having missed the boat on several occasions, that ship has now sailed!I know of others who have found their perfect match but found it too early that they cannot hold onto it while growing as a person. Friends have moved continents for love only to have the relationship end. Married friends have issues with change - as a person, as a unit - basically, Relationships are complicated!

The film also focuses on how the children are affected - even adult on the verge of marriage themselves children find it hard to keep adjusting to changes in the relationship of their parents! I find this is true in the case of friends also, most couples tend to have his and her sets for the first couple of years - after finding your legs in a relationship, you eventually settle into a comon set though I have friends who usurped their partner's friends as their own after the split. A relationship no matter how much we can say is between 2 people, it impacts more lives than that - family,friends - it's all a part of the relationship - coz they also help define the individual in the same!

When I see my parents, my family or just generally look around me at successful happy couples, I wonder how? what is the secret that they possess? is it a family recipe, is it just luck, is it a facade? I'm not sure what exactly the answer is - is it just one or a mixture of many? People can say what they want but one thing for sure - it's not simple!