Life is short....

I was discussing the books I've read, liked, hated along with authors with my friend N and I suddenly had a revelation. I used to be able to get through anything once I started - it used to be a matter of principle - if I started the book, I had to finish it. I was also experimental (in fiction) reading varied authors like Sophie Kinsella as well as Gabriel Garcia Marquez in the same time (of course, much more was read of SK - I mean, Shopaholic, come on!!). However nowadays, I really have to be captivated by the description/synopsis of a book to be bothered to attempt to read it and yes, I say attempt, coz if the book don't grab my attention by like 50 pages, it bye bye bookie!
The revelation being the reason: Before, I never had a job! College was fun, MBA even funner, and you used to get vast periods of time off so you could indulge these whims of trudging through the boring written word just so I could say - I did it! However, once you start to work and a lot of your time is spent doing things you don't necessarily enjoy or even dislike, it is much harder to spend your precious me time, suffering through something you have no interest in!
This explains why my currently read books include such illustrious titles as Chasing Daisy, Love Rosie, One Day, Twenties Girl while my half read copies of Arranged Marriages and Circle of Reason lie gathering dusts on the distant side table! not to mention the bible for all bibliophiles A Suitable Boy has never been turned beyond the 100th page!

Edited to Add: Finished Arranged Marriages last night. Also have friend who is Editor (Therefore reads for a living) and yet manages to read everything BUT pulp fiction! so clearly this is just a me phenomenon!

Wedding preps...

• Groom - check
• Venue - check
• Church booking - check
• Marriage preparation course - check 
• Dress maker - check
• Bridesmaid - check
• Flowergirls - check
• Wedding theme+colour - check 
• Flowers - check
• Wedding checklist - check 
• Permission from Pope - ??

What's the point in planning a wedding if you don't have the permission to be married?

How much is Too Much?

At what point, do you stop and say 'Enough'?

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  Is it when the jack ass break ups with you at first fight?
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  or when your boss starts treating you like his secretary?
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  when you're not sure if it's comfort thats keeping you together?
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  when he cannot hear what you are saying coz he is too busy looking at you?
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  when he screams at the slightest thing to the point of hysteria?
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  when the job you struggled to get folds up in 3 weeks?
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  When he dates your best friend?
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  when your ex meets someone new at an event you organised?
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  when he cheated on you time after time for 3 years?
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  when the love of your life tells you he is getting married coz he cannot wait for you forever?
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  when you stopped learning at the job but are continuing out of timidness?

I always wonder about people's thresholds - what is the one step that makes the line a dot?

Some people have the ability to take much more than others but at what point, do you need to say this is it?

This has been on my mind for a while with a friend whose life turned upside down. She was always a 'doer' and had a good life with some blips prior but this last strain of bad luck seemed to turn her into a different person. I realised to me, that was enough - when the issues change who you are, the break needs to be made - when you look at yourself and you struggle to recognise the person - I think you need to say 'Enough' - I need to cut my losses and move on with life. This need to prove something to yourself, to make the experience worthwhile is not worth it for me if at the end of the day, I lose myself to prove it.

Thank you

Today I sat through the first day of the Marriage Preparation Course which is mandatory to be married in the Roman Catholic Church of India - In it, the things I learned today among others was the anatomy and physiology of male/female, the updated version of the Rhythm Method and esteem issues. Considering the juggler and I are 'Evolved' human beings - the course covered ground we already knew or had passed in the beginning of our relationship - making it truly a trying experience for the 2 of us and that was just the first day!

Since the juggler also made a 'mistake' in his 'youth' , we have also done a circle of marriage tribunal law, submitting documents from birth certicates to affidavits regarding practice of catholicism and children we might have and sending 4 witnesses to talk about the mistake, all so we can get married in the church.

I'm still not sure if this process is going to be worth it, but I promised myself I would do everything from my end to ensure it happens, the rest I leave in the hands of God and apparently, his chosen ones!

Through all this, I would like to say an immense 'Thank you' to the juggler for his stoicism in the face of what must be complete insanity to someone who has not been brought up in a demanding religion! To me, its just something you take for granted, that you need to earn your right to things but not-so for others. I appreciate the complete and utter committment he has made evident in this crazy rigmarole and love him much for it even if the 3 things he loves most about me are actually about him!

10 jobs I think I'd like....

Please note I'm not saying careers coz over time I have realised, to me the job is a job!

1. Tour Guide
2. Features writer/journalist
3. Fashion/beauty editor
4. Mattress trial person (I'm assuming it involves a lot of sleeping)
5. TV show rater
6. Facebook stalker (I never said the job existed!)
7. Food taster
8. Social media user
9. Back up Dancer (I'm not sure exactly how stressful this is but in the last row, can't be so bad!) *
10. Librarian

Someone else also has a list of slacker careers!
* Pixy tells me this is 8 hours of very hard work on a slow day even in the last row (ref comments below) so no-can-do!
Thank you Pix!

If you divorce and remarry you can't take communion. But if you molest children you can celebrate mass.

aslo linked: The Great Catholic Cover-Up [Both discovered through @soniafaleiro on twitter.]

The title really strikes a chord with me since as some of you know I am running around trying to get a dispensation from the Pope to get married in Church. It amazes me where the church turns a blind eye to child molestation but instead puts in place laws and tenets regarding marriage and divorce! Would you not think that ruining a child's innocence is a far greater crime than making a mistake as an adult?

 

Multitalent amazes me!

I've been reading 'The Big Blind' by Louise Wener - the author note says she used to be the lead singer of Brit pop band 'Sleeper' with 3 Top 10 albums and 8 Top 40 singles! I find this kind of talent across spheres fascinating - It truly commands respect!

Other people with Multitalent:

• Leonardo Da Vinci - Artist, Architecht, Inventor/Scientist,Writer, General Genius
• Shari Shattuck - Actress, Author
• Boman Irani - Photographer,Actor
• Anuj Saxena - Actor, Businessman

I find Maria Shriver also a fount of talent - Journalist, Author (not such a jump I know) but it takes skill to be a member of the Kennedy family and married to Arnold Schwarzenegger!

Actor/Musician has a lot of people in the category - practically everyone seems to do that cross over. Ronn Moss, Keanu Reeves, Jared Leto, Hilary Duff, Lindsay Lohan, Leighton Meester, Taylor Momsen....

I have not included peopel who have multi talents in their spheres to much - I'm always impressed by songwriter/singers or singer/composers but I think AR Rahman deserves a special mention because he is a veritable powerhouse of Talent in the field of music!