Heartbreak warfare

Lightning strikes inside, my chest to keep me up at night
Dream of ways, to make you understand my pain
Clouds of sulfur in the air, bombs are falling everywhere
It's heartbreak warfare
Once you want it to begin, no one really ever wins
In heartbreak warfare
If you want more love, why don't you say so?
If you want more love, why don't you say so?
Drop his name, push it in and twist the knife again
Watch my face as I pretend to feel no pain (1)
Clouds of sulfur in the air bombs are falling everywhere
It's heartbreak warfare
Once you want it to begin, no one really ever wins
In Heartbreak warfare.
If you want more love, why don't you say so? (2)
If you want more love, why don't you say so? Just say so...
How come the only way to know how high you get me
is to see how far I fall? (3)
God only knows how much I'd love you if you let me
But I can't break through at all.
It's heartbreak...
I don't care if we don't sleep at all tonight, let's just fix this whole thing now
I swear to God we're gonna get it right, If you lay your weapon down (4)
Red wine and ambien, you’re talking shit again,
It’s heartbreak warfare
Good to know it's all a game, Disappointment has a name,
It’s heartbreak warfare.

Apparently, John Mayer wrote this song during his relationship with Jennifer Aniston.
Which brings to mind couple of thoughts:

Jennifer Aniston related:

- Jennifer Aniston is not over Brad Pitt
- Brad Pitt really did a number on her

Generally on relationships*:
Taking (1): to constantly bring up an ex’s name cannot be good for you, forget a relationship. It implies a static state with no growth or no movement. It’s not just pushing and twisting the knife in another person, its reminding you about the wound – it will never heal if you rip off the plaster ever so often!
Taking (2): Very few people come out and say what they want in relationships, they seem to think that true loves includes mind reading. “No I don’t know what you’re feeling – my background, personality, experiences lead me to derive different inferences/conclusions from a situation and I need to be explained your point of view”
Taking (3): I think this line summarizes abusive relationships, not necessarily physical abuse. The only way some people can measure love is to see how much pain they can inflict on another. The tolerance level to them is an indication of the quality/quantity of love. I think in this case also, a previous betrayal leaves a person so broken and unable to trust that they cannot take the affection at face value – they need to destroy it to believe it existed.
Taking (4): there is so much baggage from previous relationships that even if you think you’re over it, people are using their previous experiences as weapons. It’s like I’d rather strike first than have the pain inflicted on me again!

I’ve never been a huge John Mayer fan – that’s the Fancy’s department! He’s always raving about the lyrics e.g. Daughters but this song really makes me think!

* Having only had the one (successful) relationship, this is my opinion looking at other peoples and reading about famous ones in magazines!